In this short web-series, I’d like to discuss some of the things that are hindering straight people’s understanding of their own sexuality. Today, it’s the notion of game.
Okay, we all know what game is, but according to Urban Dictionary, it’s:
6) (n) the measure of smoothness with the opposite sex
7) (n) lines or moves you use to get the opposite sex into bed
You know, if you think about it hard enough, there really is no such thing as game. Actually the only thing that does exist is a little something called ‘social skills’.
Did your ancestors need ‘game’ to talk to, bed, and, inevitably, marry the opposite sex? No, because they had social skills. Now in modern day, people use game, get married, and then divorce because the whole time they were using techniques a stranger on the internet told them to use.
Now I’m not saying techniques aren’t helpful, but they only serve one purpose: to get you into the bed of the opposite sex. If you do a quick search online you can find all types of ‘game’. There’s tips for getting guys to like you, cheats for how to impress women and “sweep them off their feet”, but in reality, who’s doing the sweeping? You or the technique?
The sexual revolution has done quite a number on straight men and women, for they replied, “It’s a smorgasbord of easy sex. You can’t lose!”
Actually, you can lose. Reciting scripts and lines isn’t the same as true human interaction.
You’re not robots. You can’t just put a technique into your head and expect to have a normal relationship. What, are you going to spend your whole life reading tips on how to control your man or how to keep your woman in line? Ridiculous.
Here’s some of the worst advice I’ve ever read for tips on how to get guys:
“If there is no sign of him being interested in you, that doesn’t necessarily mean that he isn’t interested. He could just be shy, or be a little frightened, especially if he hasn’t dated anyone for a long time.”
Well let’s see. I’m not a girl, but if I didn’t know any better, I’d think that if he didn’t show any signs of interest, either
a) he actually doesn’t like you or b) he does like you but he’s too “frightened” to even talk to you. Why you would want a guy who’s either of these things anyway?
A twist of the body is really all it takes to get a guy into you… unless of course, you don’t want to be objectified.
Why game works for men
Women are generally more attracted to a man’s personality than a man’s body (though it does indeed help to have a good one). For some reason, nobody wants to admit this.
So why does game work for men? Because personality exuded usually ties into what a man says (i.e. the smooth, fabricated pickup lines).
The men surveying this post stood up out of their seats and cried, “Treason! You are a traitor to your manhood. If we follow your advice, how are we to get the women?!”
“Yes, the human pigs are right! How are we to get the men! Game is what allows us to ensnare them to our beds, and eventually, keep them!”
You misunderstand me. There’s nothing wrong with sex at all. The problem comes in when you artificially alter yourself to fit in with someone who probably would not care if you dropped dead the next day!
You put up emotional walls using game and pretending to be the perfect mate, all the while keeping your true personality locked away. You end up spending time with someone you don’t enjoy, but you think anything is better than being alone!
“What then?!” the genders cried. “What are we to do?”
Be yourself and risk failure. All our lives we risk rejection and because of that we grow stronger for it. Unfortunately, the words ‘be yourself’ have been twisted and distorted to mean, “be your nicest or most polite self”. And this is wrong.
Being yourself means accepting that you are not perfect and that you are not always nice. That you’re not always passive nor are you always aggressive. That you will act the way YOU want to act (free from the influence of feminists, nice guys, or douchebags).
Straight men and women need to accept their natures. To men: to desire women is who you are; never apologize for your desires. To want them should not cripple your strength, but empower it. But to put women on hold to hone your skills and talents… that is true masculine strength!
To women: to be feminine is a gift, not a weakness. The radical feminists may tell you that you must act sexually liberated! That you must exercise your power by competing with men for no other reason than you must!
If it is your will to own a company than so be it! But don’t forsake the very essence of your being.
To those who wish to continue on the path towards their masculinity and femininity, I say towards risk! For to risk is to live and to live is to truly be free.
Ignore the ones who use game as their fail-safe, their holy grail that will save them from all pain and growth that risk brings.
These guys become the Citizen Dildos of the world.
America is Screwed Unless We Figure This Out
What does it mean to be a straight man or woman in America? This is what I want to find out.
We’re living in a world that used to be a lot simpler. Kids went to to college simply to get jobs. They worked harder to make more money. Generations were born within this system. The gender roles were clearly defined.
That all may seem like it was just yesterday, but that time has long passed and the world is no longer as simple as it used to be. Now, the people are getting tired of working. They are beginning to rise up and create their own businesses. People are making their own jobs and setting their own wages. People are creating digital second selves and living as technomads! Who knew that the day would come when man and machine would live as one!
It would seem that we’ve have entered a Utopian age of growth and prosperity. But this progress has come at a great cost. For while technology and human capital continues to grow at an exponential rate,national happiness continues to decline. And what can this be attributed to?
If the answer is not yet clear, let me spell it out for you: men and women are no longer the only genders.
It’s been decades since the sexual revolution happened in America back in the 1960s. Sexual liberation rippled throughout the States, calling for the acceptance and social equality of homosexuals, transgenders, and bisexuals.
What does this have to do with you?
We’re growing up in a world where the lines are no longer clearly defined. And relationships are suffering for it.
When there were just two genders to contend with, girls and boys were taught to be men and women. The roles were clear and true to our respective natures.
Now we have boys and girls being taught nothing about who they are. “Of course you can’t teach them that! That would be leaving out the other genders! Those who did not choose to be the way they are now!”
But what about those of us who did not “choose” to be straight? What will become of US?
Instead of having these questions answered, the genders have come to an answer that they both know instinctively: sex!
America is slowly becoming a hedonistic society. ‘Hook-ups’ continue to be popular the States, making it all the more difficult for people to settle down and start families. Honestly, in a society that’s placating those looking for instant gratification, what IS the incentive?
Among straight people, divorce rates are at an all-time high. Marriages are lucky to last two years.
“Oh yeah?” you ask, “What about the people who do get married? Why do they get married in the first place?”
Easy. Because they’re brainwashed by the ideal. Marriage is commonly depicted in the media as merely the wedding, when really a wedding doesn’t make or break a marriage at all. Young people get married and realize that marriage doesn’t live up to their expectations of what’s portrayed on television. The result? A 50% divorce rate.
Marriage is not a diamond ring or a wedding. Marriage is a sick child and a tough financial period through which couples must weather.
But I digress.
What does it mean to ‘be a man’?
What does it mean to ‘be a woman’?
The answers that we’ve managed to scrape together are vague and self-serving at best.
Is reality TV going to give you the answers? Will it be the schools that step up and teach it to you? Are your parents even comfortable enough to have that sort of conversation with you?
They’ll tell young boys:
“Get a woman. Then you are a man.”
“No! Be the knight in shining armor, then you are a man.”
“Amass lots of wealth working as a soulless drone when you’re young and start a family soon after. Show her you can provide!”
To the little girls, they’ll say:
“Get a man. Then you are a woman.”
“No! Be independent and strong, then you are a woman.”
“Do as the men do and rise through the ranks of the corporate world. Show him you are no longer weak!”
Where sexuality was once apart of our daily lives (and to some extent, it still is) it is now confined to the bedroom.
America has become eroticized. And it’s time to end it.
This blog signifies the start of a movement. A call to rediscover our nature; to understand what it means to be a straight man or woman in America once again.
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William Miller is a writer and artist from San Diego, CA. He writes about many interests and creates websites like Bora Bora All Inclusive, Cheap Picture Frames, Marine Shirts, Marine Shirts, Cheap Car Batteries and Laser Teeth Whitening.